Words Have Power

Words Have Power

Our words have power.  You create much of your experience by the words you speak. When you verbalize an idea, you send out energy telling yourself and the universe of an intention, which makes the idea more likely to come to pass. Watch your words, and speak only of what you would want to have in your world.

While I realize that we are accustomed to 'instant gratification' these days, I am still amazed at the number of people who quickly throw in the towel when they do not experience quick turnarounds.  For example, a client declared that affirmations do not work because she did not see any results after repeating her affirmations for approximately 10 minutes each day for one week!  I believe that we need to consider that those 10 minutes a day have a lot of fighting to do against the 10 hours per day (for at least 22 years) that she has been spending spewing negative words.

Oftentimes, the problem is in the language we use.  Selecting the proper words is important because the words we think and use have vibrational energy that can be either positive or negative. The words we chose are a part of our thought habits and are a reflection of our subconscious beliefs. Florence Scovel Shinn said

Your word is your wand.


If you would like to experience a higher vibration, consider dropping the following words and create new speaking habits:

  1. CAN’T.  Your mind will not argue with you here.The mind does not have a sense of humor. It does not know true from false.  If you believe you can’t, you can’t. Open your mind to “can”–it is a power word. Ask yourself “How can I?” which looks for possibilities and solutions. Open your mind, your heart, your spirit to see the endless opportunities and options in life. You will be amazed.
  2. DON’T.  Your mind ignores this word–it does not hear it. When you tell yourself don’t forget, your mind hears forget and operates on that instruction. How many times have you said something on the order of “don’t forget to go to the bank”. Then what happens? You forget. The mind cannot process the word “don’t”. Instead say “I will remember to go to the bank”. If you say “I don’t want debt, your mind hears “I want debt” and attracts more of it. Think about when someone tells you “don’t look now”. Isn’t it true that you want to look immediately?
  3. WON’T.  Change to “will”.
  4. LOSE.  The mind does not like to lose things. It goes into a state of panic when it hears this and it will not only go find it—it will bring back even more so that you will not go through this again.  It is a wonderful system. For example, change “I want to lose 50 pounds” to “I want to release 50 pounds”. Use words such as gain freedomlet gorelease.
  5. WANT.  Want is defined as a need. If you are in a needy state, you are saying “I do not have this”. This is a lack or limitation way of thinking. In most of the various religions we hear “The Lord is my shepherd– I shall not want”. Trust that everything is already yours. Substitute words such as desire and intent. Of course, there are situations where you do want to use the word want; however, make certain that you use it consciously.
  6. HOPE.  This is a powerless, weak word. Choosing is the power word.
  7. WISH.  A fantasy word. State what you choose—not what you wish. Rather than saying “I am wishing to receive a lot of money”, re-phrase it in power mode with “I am choosing to receive $200k”.
  8. TRY.  This is powerless  As Master Jedi Yoda says “Do, or do not. There is no try”.
  9. IF. Allows you to make excuses and sets you up for failure. If allows you an easy out.
  10. BUT.  Everything after the word “but” is oftentimes an excuse for why we “choose” not to make the right choice at the time. It puts the focus on “out there” and not where it belongs–on you. It can be translated to “I hear you but I don’t want to _______ (fill in the blank)”. When someone shares an idea or dream with you, resist the urge to say “Yeah, but….” Instead try saying , “YES! and …”. This will add energy and belief to their desire.
  11. NOT.  Just state what you choose.
  12. SHOULD.  This is a judgmental, parental term that tells us that somehow we have not measured up. Affirm yourself—do not blame yourself.

Wouldn’t it be great if we all began to watch our words and use language that will let us feel good about ourselves and become conscious creators?  Remember:   death and life are in the power of the tongue.

You become great by thinking great thoughts and by backing those thoughts with your words, energy, emotions, and actions. Encourage yourself to leave behind negatives, and uphold positive, uplifting ideas with your speech. This is how your dreams will be able to manifest from the inside out.


Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.  — Frank Outlaw



About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.


  1. I love this post, Rachel! I took a course years ago and they said to use the phrase, “I am open to the opportunity to …” It helps me open my consciousness to other area that are beyond my minds view. It also reminds me that It doesn’t have to come the way I want it to. If it comes a different way, that works too. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Our words definitely wield power, and it’s important to choose what we say and write with that in mind. Your list of words that we use and the suggestions for replacing them is excellent. The one that strikes me the most is changing “hope” to “choose.” I’m going to try to modify my language and see what happens.

  3. Ah, I love words! And you’re so right, Rachel–they truly are so powerful. Isn’t it amazing how we can self-sabotage with them while not even thinking about it.
    The part about your client gave me a chuckle–I hear that from folks a lot. And it always reminds me of that Zig Ziglar quote that says using positive thinking is like bathing–we need to do it every day 🙂

  4. Awesome post and thanks for the reminder how important our words are. They tell our minds what to believe and that sets emotions in order. When it comes to technology I have a tendency to say, I can’t. As I am aware of this I try to catch myself. I also stop after using the word but, & check if I’d rather say, and.

  5. I am such a believer in the power of words. Your word is your wand – I love that. Replacing the negative words we use, in thoughts and speech, with definite, positive ones is a sure way to change the energy that surrounds us and shapes our lives. Great post.
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  6. Rachel, this is a fantastic piece. And I heartily agree with everything…except “want.” I think it is perfectly normal and natural to want things for yourself, despite all the messages that we women get that it is selfish and greedy and — gasp! — unladylike to want things for ourselves. Hogwash, pure and simple. I understand your Biblical reference, but would suggest that wanting things comes from a place of abundance and needing things comes from a place of scarcity and lack. At least that’s how it works for me!

  7. Such good advice. The choice of words is so important. Using negative words or those that indicate lack of confidence is counter-productive. Always check your writing to make sure you aren’t making these poor choices.
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  8. Thank you Rachel for sharing how powerful our words are! Love the list of words NOT to say and what to say instead 🙂 Just a matter of changing what we say……..and HOW we say it 🙂 Great post!

  9. Yes, I am a big believer in the power of our words, Rachel. I love the quote, “Your word is your wand”. This speaks on so many levels. It speaks of integrity in the words we use. It speaks of using the wand to evoke magic too. It is so easy to unconsciously use many of the words you point out and the key is to be consciousness enough to catch ourselves, and to switch the words we use. Replacing the negative words with the positive definitely shifts the energy both in ourselves and in the environment around us. So many patterns we carry forward from when we were young. It takes practice, however, the results are well worth it.

  10. Rachel – It’s SO FUNNY that I happened on to your post just when I did. We just visited our son and daughter-in-law and our first grandchild who is now 3 years old. When my granddaughter gets frustrated, my son and daughter-in-law always say, “Use your words.” (vs. crying, stomping feet, etc.) This happens often enough that my husband and I were commenting on it to ourselves and marveled at how it works! Our little one stops and thinks for a fraction of a second, and tries to verbalize her feelings! I LOVE your quote about ‘your word is your wand.’ I will have to somehow convey this to our granddaughter, as well, so she understands not just the pragmatic use of language – but the magic of it as well!
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  11. Rachel – I am so sorry – I saw the first commentators’ name, and accidentally wrote it in lieu of your name, just now, in my reply, above. Not sure how to edit that. Again, so sorry!
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  12. It may be difficult for people to grasp the idea that words are energy. But, there is no doubt about the power of their use, especially in our current political arena. I am amazed how children so freely use derogatory language and how easily it has spread into our public language as well. For those who understand, your words determine in which energy field you will live the rest of your life. Let’s hope a whole lot more people wise up.
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  13. Hi Rachel

    What a post. Affirmation have been known to cause a revolution. I do remember a time where I read in the good book about Idle words. It was my first encounter to the power of words.

    The words you mentioned which must be changed should not be taken for granted. When these negative words are turned to positive words, they transform our lives in ways we never imagined.

    Thanks for sharing Rachel. Take Care
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  14. I’ve worked a lot with language over the years. I think I am much more aware of what I say and how I say it now. I’m glad I have an awareness of how language affects me and others. It makes me much more considerate in my speech and writing.

    Enjoy the journey!
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  15. Hi Rachel,

    Absolutely loved this post! And, thank you for reminding me of the Frank Outlaw quote. I’ll try not to forget it again… Just teasing.
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  16. Hi Rachel ,
    I like this post ,I know how much power words have
    and I am always looking for the right words and like
    to learn new ones . One word stands out here for me
    and this is” try”, sometimes there is too many ” try”
    and not much “do” 🙂
    Thank you

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