How Do You Spend Your Days?

How Do You Spend Your Days?

How you spend your days is how you spend your life.  

More than a brilliant quote from writer Annie Dillard, the above statement is another clue to discovering what you want. Think about it: If how you spend your days is how you spend your life, then how you want to spend your days should reveal how you want to spend your life.

Enter: Your Perfect Day

Wouldn’t it be amazing to go to bed on Sunday and not dread Monday morning?  Or simply for everyday to feel like the weekend? What would that look like for you?  I don’t know about you, but in my perfect day I set my own schedule, dress as funky as I want to (good-bye business suit!), do creative work all day in my own light-filled studio, meet interestingng new people, and have fabulous, two-hour lunches with my best girls and guys in trendy new restaurants around San Francisco.  I would have complete flexibility over my time so that I could travel all over the world plus be available to my family and friends as much as I wanted to.

But that’s just me. Perhaps you want something totally different and that is 100 percent fine! Or perhaps you want the same things. I don’t know what you want, but at the bollow of this post you will find prompts to discover what a perfect day means to you.  You can follow the prompts provided if you like but don’t feel restricted by them. They are simply guides to get you thinking, in detail, about what it would mean to have a perfect day. So sit back, put on music such as “Lovely Day” by Bill Withers and answer as honestly and uncensored as possible:  What does a perfect day look like to you? 

By planning out your perfect day, as unrealistic as it may seem to you now, you open your mind to discovering what changes need to happen in your life to make your perfect day an everyday reality. In other words, you will be discovering what you want.  

Helpful hint: Consider this activity a discovery of one of your perfect days, not “the” perfect day. Obviously, every day won’t be the same, even in your dream life, so just outline the day in a way that is inspiring to you. 


  • What time is it?
  • Where am I?
  • Is anyone with me? Who?
  • What’s the first thing I do?


  • What am I wearing?
  • Where do I go?
  • What do I do for the rest of the morning?


  • What do I eat?
  • Where do I go?
  • Am I meeting anyone? Who?  For how long?


  • What do you do for the rest of the afternoon? Work?  Something else?
  • Until when?


  • Where do I go?
  • What do I do?
  • What do I do for dinner? Cook? Go out?
  • Is anyone with me?


  • When do I go to bed?
  • What do I do just before bed?
  • As I close my eyes, what am I most grateful for?


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About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.


  1. What a fun exercise to help really understand how you want your life to be. Breaking it down to a perfect day helps clarify how you truly want to spend your time.

  2. It is a great exercise… and sometimes I have to work to figure out what would make me happy and how to enjoy a day… great stuff Rachel.
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  3. I just love this, Rachel. I’m a big believer in imagining what I want to have happen, as it does just as you say–you open your mind to what changes you need to make.
    And I know just what my perfect day looks like ๐Ÿ™‚
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  4. A great exercise for figuring out the kind of life that you want ๐Ÿ™‚ Thanks for the great share , Rachel ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. You had me at your first sentence: “How you spend your days is how you spend your life.” There is a world of truth in that, Rachel!

  6. This is a great exercise. I try to update my ideal day/week/month every quarter so I can stay on track with my goals and priorities.
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  7. I can imagine how fulfilling it is for you to reach out and help so many solopreneurs. I agree with you that, planning your day makes you realize the changes you want to make in your life.

  8. What a beautiful exercise Rachel! It makes me feel good just to read the questions and to try to imagine the answers!
    It also points to the fact that it is the little things that matter (What do I do just before bed?) It’s so easy to lose touch with that.

    My idea of a perfect LIFE is when you’re excited to go to bed on Sunday night because the next day is Monday!

  9. By framing this as a perfect day, it makes me more aware of the time I have each day to create my day. It’s funny how we take our day so much for granted and see it as a to-do-list rather than making it day to move through with pleasure and meaning. Thank you, Rachel, for asking these simple questions to wake us up.
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  10. What a fun exercise! It makes me really think about what I like to do most, where I am and who I want to be with. I love Mondays! Bring on the new week! (and AMEN to NO MORE BUSINESS SUIT!)
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  11. What a great exercise! I’m definitely going to do this in my journal. My idea of a perfect day is one that starts and ends with some peaceful time by a lake.

  12. I was just reading a science journal report about sleep and apparently it is not natural for us to sleep once at night for 8 hours. Up until the age of industrialism humans used to sleep twice a day, in many Victorian writings you will read about ‘first sleep’ and ‘second sleep’. The great part about working from home or even working for yourself, is you can do whatever suits you best. I often sleep very well for a few hours then I’m wide awake. I always thought it was a bad sleep pattern, but it seems it’s natural, so now I get p and do something then when I am tired again I go back to bed for my second sleep!

    Enjoy the journey!
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  13. A perfect day to me is one that I don’t feel has been wasted and my family is well and happy. So most days are good for me. I mostly have the freedom to do what I want, when I want. My best days are when I’ve completed tasks I set for myself. If I were to improve on things it would be, like you, to have the ability to travel, locally and internationally, finances permitting.
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  14. Thanks for this excellent post! I know I have been trying to make a conscious effort to live more deliberately and constructively, making the most of the time I have each day. It’s really an effort to overcome obstacles sometimes, but I’m determined to do it!
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  15. Thanks for providing this template to creating my perfect day. FYI. My is remarkably similar to yours๐Ÿ˜Š

  16. I must admit that I do mostly live my perfect day. I don’t use an alarm. My wife and I have coffee time for about an hour and half. Then I shower and have a protein shake and take a walk. Then we dive into work. The only issue is that we don’t have all of the revenue that we would like but it is growing.
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  17. Appreciate it. Totally agree with Renee. I try to follow every steps you wrote. I don’t use an alarm also. There is a flavor Maintaining punctuality.
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  18. Thanks for sharing such an awesome mind mapping exercise Rachel!

    Because as you mentioned, describing the specific details, helps us
    further crystallize our thinking, and get extremely focused!

    I had not seen such a practical exercise laid out like this before!Thanks!
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  19. Wow. Great insights!
    I totally agree that everyday routine can be sometimes boring, but that how most of us live our lives.

  20. Oh… if it were only that simple…

    This part is easily said; my perfect day would be when I didn’t have anything to worry about. That means no health issues, no money issues, no family issues, no food issues… and Michael Jackson would be back getting ready to release a new album!

    Truth be told, I have a goal and then a dream, and both center around money. The money goal is to have enough to not only pay for anything I owe or might owe or need, but those little incidentals I love buying here and there (such as Reese’s peanut butter cups) that don’t get in the way of whether or not I keep to skip dinner to have it (that’s a metaphor; I’m eating okay). The money dream is to have way more than that so I could take care of my family and friends and contribute greatly to charities that I care about. If the money was really big I’ve set up my own research institutes for a few things I’d love to see eradicated.

    How’s that for putting thought into the question? Then again, I think about it every day; maybe that’s why I don’t sleep well. ๐Ÿ™‚
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