Attitude is Important in Shifting Fear

Attitude is Important in Shifting Fear

tweety-bird-attitudeI went down a very long road before I started becoming more aware of the forms of fear that I  faced.  I began looking at my attitude and realized that I had trouble having an open mind and even being hopeful.  I seemed to look for problems to arise and they usually did–self-fulfilling prophecy.  When I was focusing on everything that could go wrong, I was unable to see what could go right.
Imagine what might be possible if we are able to see possibilities and opportunities instead of problems and roadblocks.  Can we anticipate the best instead of the worst?  Yes–we need but to decide to do so.  We can decide to pursue our dream or we can let it go.  
I created personal strategies to keep my attitude strong and upbeat and focused on  "living in possibilities."  This is key because our individual viewpoint consists of observation, attitude and conclusions:
  1. What you initially see as an observer or as a participant.
  2. The attitudes (beliefs, thoughts, feelings, and assumptions) you  assign to what you have observed.
  3. The conclusion you arrive at from what you have observed. How you  consciously and unconsciously deduce what you have observed based  on what is fact and what was imagined (along with influence  from friends, family, colleagues, etc).
Awareness is a choice. The one power that we always maintain in any situation is how we  choose to see that situation. We are in complete control of our attitude.
            Our attitude affects our decisions.
            Our decisions direct our actions.
            Our actions cause our results.
To break through fear, we must be aware of our attitude in order to take empowering actions.
Your circumstances do not have much to do with whether you have success or failure in life.  Your attitude has much more to do with that.  With your faithful courage.  With your decisions.  
Non-achievers blame their circumstances. Winners rise above their circumstances. Some concentrate on the blank wall that boxes them in.  Winners always look for a way to get under it, over it, around it, or through it.
There are no limits on what you can achieve with your life, except the limits you accept in your mind." – Brian Tracy
Notice when you are feeling irritated, anxious or upset with someone or a specific situation. Observe your attitude and see f you can discover where it is contributing to your irritation, anxiety or upset.  Which habits, attitudes, beliefs and expectations are really holding you back?
This is the second post in a series about fear.  See Part 1 here (recognizing fear).
About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.


  1. Fear can alter our perception. We choose whether or not we let it. Great post!

  2. Jean Smith :

    Hi Rachel… wow! I am very impressed with your post. It is very enlightening, encouraging and empowering.
    Fear is something that for sure can over-take an individual if allowed and a negative mindset can and will destroy a person if allowed.
    Thanks for a great post,
    saw you at UBC…

  3. Fear is one of those words we use too much as an excuse NOT to do something. Sometimes, you just have to break out of your comfort zone and try something new and not be afraid.
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  4. This is something I’ve suspected for a long time but it’s very hard to let go of the negative when experience tells me it keeps on turning up.
    Maybe I’ve never been truly positive in the first place?
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  5. I have to admit that I worry/ fear things that haven’t even happened yet! I agree, fear should not be used as an excuse!
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  6. Jason Power

    Hi Rachel,

    You are right, when it comes to fears or external factors we cannot control, the one thing we can control is our reaction to those things and our reactions can have an impact on what happens in our futures.


  7. Attitude is fed by so many things. Making a decision to conquer fear is a start and a way to improve that attitude. Making changes in what you believe inside is another important part of getting through the fear factor and improving attitude.
    Barrie Evans recently posted…Your Philosophy Of Life And How It Will Affect You.My Profile

  8. Great Post! Attitude IS everything, and you can do so much by being aware of this.
    But It can be difficult for many people to take responsibility for their Attitude, Awareness of your own thought process is the Key – Just like you said..

  9. Excellent post Rachel and fear is a terrible thing that takes getting the right mindset to overcome it. Thanks for sharing.
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  10. You are so right about attitude affecting the outcomes in our life. I’m constantly reminding my children of this. I love to read stories about how people overcame difficulties in their life and kept a good attitude – my grandfather was one of these. I don’t have room here, but he was an amazing man who overcame numerous difficulties with grace and joy.
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  11. Wow! Empowering! Beautiful article, Rachel! Thank you!
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  12. Hi Rachel!

    Another fantastic positively uplifting post. Keep spreading the word lovely lady. We can change the world one person at a time by awakening their awareness of the fact that they can choose their attitude and influence their own lives and that of others. Love it!
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  13. Lisa Barton :

    I recognise now I’m in my 40’s that I am more fearful than I used to be but maybe that’s because I have more things to be fearful of (my childrens well being, my own wellbeing, where the next chapter will take me, redefining myself according to what I want to be;) However to take control over this I have been following my happiness project and am starting to feel more content and in control of my life and where I want to be – looking forward to the next installment!
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  14. Such a great post! Fear and attitude go hand in hand!!
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  15. Hi Rachel, I enjoyed reading you blog. It seems that you can manage your attitude very well. And yes your are right that every attitude that we make affects all our decisions, actions and results. Also thank you for this inspiring post.

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