Are You Facing Your Fears?

Are You Facing Your Fears?

As entrepreneurs the most daunting obstacles to reaching our biggest vision for our business are our unique personal fears. We do not always realize that we are deciding not to pursue a great opportunity or try something new in our business due to fear. We get locked into an idea of how we should market, sell, manage, or structure our day. These ideas are often based on habit, outdated perceptions or our past experiences. We are reluctant to change and when we receive mediocre or poor results, we still hesitate to abandon our approach.

I can be a very determined person. I can sometimes stick with an idea, tactic or plan, even if it felt as though I were repeatedly batting my head against a brick wall. This way of doing things is like continuing to head the wrong way on a one-way street despite the signs that are telling you that you are headed in the wrong direction. It was actually deep reflection on the Serenity Prayer that turned me around. Now, whenever I get that "running into a brick wall" feeling, I recognize this as a signal that I should change directions. 

I attract a good number of entrepreneurs who really fear technology. Even though adding certain technology solutions to their businesses could increase profit and put some of their functions on auto pilot, they are afraid that the change might temporarily disrupt business or that the implementation might turn out to be difficult to learn. They have come up with lots of unsubstantiated excuses why they should not change the way they are doing things. Yet, they work hard and would like to grow their businesses and have more free time. They do not recognize their hesitancy as fear and try to camouflage it as a legitimate business decision. While clinging to outdated or inefficient systems simply because you fear change might maintain the status quo, it will ultimately block you from achieving your biggest goals.

We all do this sometimes, right? I love the saying, "if you always do what you always did, you'll always get what you always got". Whenever I start getting a headache from the brick wall, I repeat it like a mantra.

Getting honest with yourself may hurt a little. After all, you may have to admit you made some decisions that did not work out like you would hoped they would. Let that be okay. It is a right of passage for seasoned entrepreneurs. Cut your losses and make some changes. If you need to, get some expert help.

How do you know where fear is slowing you down? Sit comfortably in a quiet place for 15 minutes, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Allow the stress and worry of the day leave you. Now ask yourself:

· What is not working well in my business?

· Where am I doing the same thing and expecting different results?

· What could work better that I am not addressing?

· What am I tolerating that needs changing?

· What is creating stress or exhausting my energy?

· What needs to get done that I am putting off?

· How would my business look if it were where I wanted it to be?

· Where am I apprehensive about trying something new?

· Are all of my strengths being used well?

· Where do my weaknesses negatively affect my business?

If you answer these questions honestly, you will begin to understand where you may be holding yourself back from the most marvelous, fun, profitable business you have the potential to create.

The Serenity Prayer helped me to understand that when I pushed to change people or situations over which I had no control, I simply could not. Sometimes fear was stopping me from changing the things I could. It is worth contemplating.  The Serenity Prayer:

"God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

Take a calculated risk, try a different approach, reach outside your comfort zone. Think outside the box. That is the true test of a successful entrepreneur.


About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.


  1. Dr. Erica Goodstone


    Wow. What a list. I think I could find lots of answers for every single question you posed. Okay, it’s time to focus on these pieces of my business and slowly straighten them out. I will be spending some time reviewing what I have already done and what still needs to be done. Your list is really powerful.


    Dr. Erica
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  2. Rachel,
    today is on eof those days that you read a lot from me.. first I went to reply to a comment on my blog.. you rock my friend, thanks) second I went to Willena blog and I froze once I seen your comment so I had to let you know it was amazing what you wrote for her… now I come to your own Blog and I have not more words how to express my gratitude to have known you as I do via our blogs.. you are a great person, a wonderful friend and a super marketer ready to serve and support otehrs while you do yoru best in yoru business…

    I made a lot of mistakes.. but do not know how to go back and fix them.. so SORRY about them.. I MUST say to you that your post made such an impact on me because I am one of those people that when I get into any new tech stuff.. I get stressed out… since I find it hard.. not as bad now (after more than 2 years at blogging) but still somethings make me stressful at times..

    I ususlly practice meditation as my nprmal routine.. but reading your way may be a little better specifically fro relaxing and take it in and get ready to overcome what ever I was stuck with.

    Your writing style is always enjoyable to follow.. always full of great contects.. it si a ploeaure to come and visit and support you as best as I possibly can.
    Thnaks so much.
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  3. Erika Mohssen-Beyk

    Hi Rachel,
    I like your Serenity Prayer
    and your list. This is a great help
    to get clear and change thing which not work.
    Thank you
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  4. I have a copy of the Serenity Prayer framed in my bedroom. The philosophy helped me in getting through some difficult times in my life and I like it there as a reminder.

    Thanks for the excellent lists of questions to ask yourself. Even if we are ready and willing to embrace change, these will make us think more clearly and be able to make necessary changes. They are worth asking on a regular basis to keep you on the right path.
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  5. Thank you Rachel!

    Your questions are definitely the type of internal search that ca only lead to some long term positive breakthroughs!

    Even though it’s not easy! Thank you showing us the way! I just joined B3, so I look forward to reading and discovering more from you going forward!
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  6. It’s so true that our fears hold us back more than anything. I have one that I know I need to step out from. I’ve been taking baby steps, but I need to just leap. Thanks for the reminder :).
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  7. donna merrill

    Hi Rachel,

    These are great questions to ask ourselves. I’m so glad you wrote them down because they are the key points to examine ourselves…we often forget to do that lol!

    Facing our fears is one thing I’m always working on. There is always growth thin this business and always a learning curve. Also there is constant change.

    We have to be honest with ourselves and keep on growing. It is always great to work with another person too. This way we can get an objective view of where we are going.

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  8. I heard a folk tale recently about fear – the essence of it was that it can appear huge and insurmountable – but as you walk forward and confront it – it becomes smaller and smaller until it’s just a grain of sand you can blow away – and that has certainly been true for me. The most difficult part can be recognizing that your acting out of fear – because some behaviors have become habits and we fail to recognize them for what they really are – avoidance of a fear.
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  9. 10 great questions… And I can certainly take the time to go through this little exercise… my comfort zone is keeping me closed in.. I need to leap and get out of the box!! Great post!!
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  10. I totally agree. Fear is an incredibly powerful motivator of behavior. And if we’ve had a bad experience when taking a risk before, it can reinforce our fears. I like your list of questions. Time away from the day-to-day running of a business and thinking strategically can open our eyes to some really neat opportunities. Even if all we do is generate a list of dreams, and then commit to taking some step toward exploring them, it is time well spent.
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  11. Yorinda Wanner :

    Hi Rachel,
    great insight and I appreciate your transparency in your sharing!

    Your questions are a great way to look at how and where we can improve!

    The serenity prayer has helped me a lot!
    I just came across a ‘different version’ which goes like this:

    God grant me the vacation
    to make bearable what I can’t change
    a friend to make it funny
    and the wisdom to never get my knickers in a knot
    because it solves nothing
    and it makes me walk funny.

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise!
    Love and Light!
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