The Three Types of People

The Three Types of People

Remember how Einstein defined insanity as doing the same things over and over again while expecting different results? As we are now in the second quarter of 2016, perhaps you might see some of this insanity in how you are running your business.

Generally speaking, there are three types of people:

1: The Sleepwalkers

People who have a victim mentality. They life is 'doing it' to them. There always seems to be someone else to blame for their plight. This is the large section of the population who moan and groan about their circumstances. They are either totally blind to the truth that they have created those conditions or they are not willing to face their responsibility of it.

Either way, they refuse to take responsibility for changing their lives. This person is living life by default rather than by design.

2: The Once in a while Aspiring

This group has similar traits to Sleepwalkers. Once in a while they are prompted to aside from occasionally be, do and have more in their lives AND to look at themselves in the process. Unlike Sleepwalkers, they do accept some responsibility for their circumstances, and a couple of times a year they are prompted to do something about it.

They read a self-help book once a year on the beach and promise to make changes when they get home. But they fail to follow through. Then comes the New Year and they make a few resolutions. Despite the best of intentions, they fail to follow through yet again. Then there is the percentage of this group who go to a seminar or event once in a while and they declare to step up and make changes. But again there is a lack of discipline and implementation. Their life returns to its familiar pattern.

This is a life of tolerance–not design.

3: The Conscious Entrepreneur

Here you find a small percentage of the population who not only take full responsibility for their existing conditions and circumstances, they also take full responsibility for making a change in them.

These individuals are often reflecting on their life experience and their role in creating them. They continually look tat ways they can improve
themselves in order to improve their lives and business. They are disciplined in daily activities that improve themselves. They understand the difference between an event (e.g. seminar, book) that is the catalyst for change and the process (continuous coaching, self-improvement program that makes the change possible.

This population understands that their personal and professional lives can only reflect the quality of thinking they bring to it; therefore, they become very intentional about their personal growth.

This is a life lived by design.

All three categories are observable behavioral traits rather than rigid personality assessments and sweeping generalizations. There will be people whose behavior fits between aspects of each group. There will also be those who evolve from group one to group two to group three.

It begs two questions of you:

Which group most accurately represents you today?

Which group do you choose to be represented in tomorrow?

You decide who you will be and whether you are willing to do things differently in order to accomplish it.

Given that the quality of your life is reflected by choices, there cannot be a more rewarding activity than to consider your choices and their implications.




About Online Biz Boomer Babe

Rachel Lavern is a Certified Business Coach and founder of My Booming Online Business--a blog for middle-age, global, uptown women. She is on a mission to transform entrepreneurs' finances by teaching the action set, mindset and skill set needed to get launched + make money.


  1. Hi Rachel

    Indeed this is very interesting. I have seen friends who possess these behavorial traits that you mentioned.

    For me, I am working towards #3. I do believe that whatever one becomes is based on the choice one makes and the action he takes. Thank you for sharing this information.

    Have a lovely week.
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  2. Great post! I am probably more of a conscious entrepreneur. I love the video from Brene Brown in a cartoon! I just saw this video a few days ago doing research for one of my clients. I usually don’t blame others as I blame myself for not knowing, not doing, etc… I think it’s because I am self-employed and people aren’t around me to blame. LOL Thanks for sharing.

  3. I know I am #3 & have been in self-growth mode all my life & still participate in transformational work. What I have learned that applies even to #3’s is we have an automatic reaction to make things wrong, people wrong, or as Bene Brown says about blame. Often we think we take responsibility for our actions but maybe not really. It takes conscious consistent work to be the best human being we can be.

  4. There are many systems of looking at people and their style of being in the world. Two of my favourites “lenses” are the four temperaments and also astrology, which is a very exact science. People stop themselves very often from moving forward in their lives because of unfounded fears they adopted in childhood, so the key is to be able to uncover those and then to transform ourselves into the best possible version of ourselves possible.

    I am very ambitious and conscious of my choices and have always been a person who busied myself doing things and thinking. I’ve learned the importance of literally stopping and giving myself the opportunity to do nothing. It’s about taking stock, reassessing life and then a willingness to move in a new direction. If I had to choose, I see myself more of a #3 and yet at times, it feels good not to be achieving all the time. Thanks for the food for thought in this post, Rachel!

  5. I definitely fit into the #3 category. I grew up with a mother who was a #1… and am very thankful I didn’t fall into her foot steps. It’s very hard to see someone who is intelligent and capable let themselves be held back by believing they are powerless. We all have choices.
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  6. I really enjoyed the little video and could identify. I would probably find a way to blame Hubby for the spilled coffee too – lucky he’s a patient man. Having said that, on the bigger issues in life, I ty not to blame as I truly believe the one thing we have control over is our reaction to things. If we choose to blame we are not moving forward. I’m aiming for a life lived by design – sometimes I stumble, drop the coffee cup and the plot, but I’m working on it.
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  7. Hello,

    Well seems like I’m kinda new here, I just landed here from your comment on shermansmithblog and I just your articles really amazed me.

    I’m not a public person so can’t comment on type of people thing as I stay away from crowd of people 😀

  8. Let’s hope everyone is working towards being an inspiring entrepreneur. I know some days it’s easy to be asleep at the wheel, but you can’t live that way.

  9. Woow Awesome post. This is really helpfull for me. You made my day. I just loved this article. You helped me alot so I just wanna say thanks to you.
    Thank you.?

  10. I live my life by design — MY design. And I absolutely love it! The victims just kill me. I know what it’s like to feel victimized, but too many people dwell in that space. Do they know how annoying they are? 😉 I’m willing to help anyone — but by golly, they have to be willing to help themselves first!

  11. I’m # 3 in my professional life. Because I’m overweight and have been for years, however, I have to put my personal life in #2. Just today, I saw a quote that said “I’ve never seen any life transformation that didn’t begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit.” I honestly think this is true in a lot of cases – & I think me getting tired of being overweight is what will make me go into phase #3 & consciously take full responsibility for my health. Thanks for the very thought-provoking article!
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  12. Well I know of a lot of sleepwalkers, and every now and then I think we all are in the category of once in a while aspiring, we cannot always be conscious doers. However, I think I am often the conscious entrepreneur, at least I try to change things. but it is of course not always successful. 😉

  13. Hi Rachel,
    Very interesting post and thought-provoking as I really needed to think about which one of these 3 I really am right now 😉 As for the one that I strive to be? Definitely the Conscious Entrepreneur…….

    Thanks for sharing!

  14. I am conscious entrepreneur. Totally a Type A personality. I live my life by my design. Well that isn’t completely true, I spend time in prayer and then I take steps toward what I think God is calling me to do. I am willing to switch it up when it is no longer working.

  15. Hi Rachel,

    How easy is it to play the victim? How easy is it to blame everything on someone else instead of taking responsibility? Blaming life, blame someone else, blame god or a higher source. Victim mentality goes hand in hand with the savior mentality. Needing someone to pull the victim out of their misery and being the reason for living. Thank you for bringing that type to attention because not many people talk about it!

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  16. I live a life by design… God’s design. I’m not content to settle for what the world has to offer me, I want everything God has for me! Life is more exciting this way.

  17. Bharat Sharma

    I admit, I was a sleep walker in past. I always blamed everything on others even when I knew that it was my fault. I knew how to correct my mistakes but never tried because of lack of enthusiasm for the same. It was like “let it be, I will not repeat this mistake again” everytime I was repeating the mistake. As far as self book is concerend, I do my best to follow them but sometimes it feels like a burden and now matter how hard you try, you always find yourself slipping at the same old track of carelessness.

    Now, I have moved from sleep walker stage, don’t read a lot of self help books as I get addicated to them ( and other books) and waste a lot of time in doing nothing but reading. Not at all at the third stage but trying to slowly move towards that stage.

  18. What an excellent post Rachel!

    It’s too funny! Because as I was reading number two, I immediately thought about the occasional
    seminar and or workshop attendee!

    And lo and behold, you mentioned that very type!LOL!

    Because personality type # two, definitely seemed to be describing them!

    And I loved the video too BTW! The Dr. is very funny!
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